Dear Jesus,
I praise you for your blessings and your love. You are my strength and my life. I ask you for humility and for a generous heart that I may serve others to the best of my ability. Come into my soul, Jesus, and dwell in and transform it so that it looks like You. You are the purpose of my life.
Amen.
I refuse to be one of those bloggers who apologizes for not having written in a while, but suffice it to say that life has been a giant roller coaster for the past several weeks, and that I am glad to finally be able to write again. I am going to continue with this series about the way God actually designed men and women and how what exactly His design for sex really is. In this post, I will be discussing women and the beautiful way in which God designed them. Ladies, I realize I am not a woman and cannot truly understand your experience, but know that I am at least running all this by my wife for some kind of validation and editing. Pay attention, men. I hope this is something that you can use to learn more about the women in your lives so that you may honor, love, and respect them better.
If you look at the media through the mindset that "sex sells," it becomes apparent that women's bodies are all over the place in various stages of undress. We see all kinds of examples of "beauty" and what women should look like, supposedly. There are lotions and creams to reduce wrinkles, tight clothes to show off a figure, bras that make the breasts appear bigger than they really are, etc. To an outsider, it might look like women are obsessed with being beautiful. So what was God thinking when He designed the female body the way He did? Let's take a look at it...
The female body really is absolutely amazing. The average woman has higher levels of oxytocin, estrogen, and progesterone than the average man. Her hips are wider, her voice is higher, she has less body hair, more fat deposits, less upper body muscle, and less testosterone. Her genitalia are INTERNAL, as opposed to the external penis and testicles of the man. She lovingly RECEIVES the semen inside of her and CONCEIVES a new life that her entire body works towards nurturing and growing. This is incredible! Her entire body becomes devoted to the care of the child. After the child is born, her breasts fill with milk in order to feed her baby. Yes men, breasts have a function. Sorry ladies, I cannot explain the male fascination with breasts, just understand that they have an erotic function to the visually acute male. We find them beautiful and arousing.
Let's get back to the active receptivity that is represented by the internality of the female genitalia. Women are ACTIVELY RECEPTIVE by their nature. Notice I didn't say passive. I didn't say that they sit around and wait to make lots of babies. This active receptivity goes well beyond the functions of childbirth. This active receptivity is embedded in a woman's brain. Her corpus callosum, the tissue that connects the two hemispheres of the brain, is bigger than that of the average man. This makes women more "web thinkers," able to multi-task and focus on more than one thing at a time. Women are more relationship driven, seeking to connect to other people and finding satisfaction in those relationships. They actively receive those things into them and give of themselves to the people with whom they have relationships. According to John Paul II in The Theology of the Body, "she finds herself again in the very fact of giving herself 'through a sincere gift or herself,' when she is accepted in the way in which the Creator wished her to be, that is, 'for her own sake,' through her humanity and femininity."
Women are more relational than men, so it goes to say that women are more emotionally perceptive and more observant of someone's needs. This is obvious in childrearing. I can speak through my own experience that my wife is able to detect when something is wrong with one of our kids, either physically or emotionally, long before I am able to come to the same conclusion. It also amuses me when she is able to predict something about me or makes a deep observation about me that I had no clue that she even knew! It used to drive me crazy, but now I am more amused by it than anything else. Women are much more intuitive in all their relationships in men, and are finely tuned to how everyone is feeling and getting along. They are peacemakers, for the most part, and seek to make everyone in a group setting feel welcome and understood.
It doesn't do much good to discuss the amazing workings of the female body without a discussion of beauty. Back in the good ol' Garden of Eden, God made man and woman in His own likeness. This means that both men and women are a direct reflection of the nature of God. Why does a woman strive so hard to be attractive and to feel like she is beautiful? She is a direct reflection of the nature of God's beauty. Fitting into the narrative is how men seek this beauty. They are seeking God, and God put women on Earth to be the representatives of His greater beauty. No two woman are the same, and every woman is a special facet of the beauty of God.
It makes sense how this beauty is exploited and twisted. Just look at the porn industry. It takes the beauty of woman and distorts it into something evil and ugly. The porn industry abuses the women who "perform" and presents a twisted and ugly picture of something that is a gift from God. God gave women a special dignity that is represented in their beauty, their gift of self, and their ability to nurture and help others. Satan attacks this dignity with vengeance as is obvious when you look around our society. Satan hates women and motherhood, as reflected in the Bible. In Genesis 3:15 God says to the serpent, "I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; He will strike at your head, while you strike at his heel." From the very beginning, the devil has had a special animosity towards women. He has done everything he can to defile that which God made beautiful.
In my own limited way, I have discussed the way in which God designed a woman's body. It is mysterious, beautiful, and wonderful. I know that you women may not always feel like that every month, but God made you with a special dignity. You are truly a daughter of the King, made in His image. You are my sisters, and I work hard to love and respect you more and more each day. I have abused so many of you through my addiction to pornography, and now I call myself to love and serve you more and more each day. Never forget who you are, and the respect and honor that you deserve, that is so frequently denied you. Never settle for less. You are unique and beautiful, every single one of you. Wow, writing this has brought me to tears. Be at peace my sisters. Be at peace.
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